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Autumn Days – September Tealady Update 

The year has flown by. I can’t believe we are back here in October again.  I have a lot of mixed feelings about October; it was a year ago I was diagnosed with anxiety and depression and I had to take time off from work, due to many issues including my Dad’s illness. Memories of this time last year, many journeys up and down the M5, watching my Dad slowly get weaker. 
I’ve been crying a lot recently. Not in a depressed way. A release.  I didn’t cry about my Dad much before now. I think I kept it in, held it all together to get through the pregnancy and supporting everyone else. It seems now I have time to process and let go of these feelings. I miss him. I miss his humour and his facial expressions.  I miss talking to him about DIY, my work and gardening. I miss gossiping with him about my mum and sisters, us both being the ones who sorted them out. I think he’d be pleased with what I’ve done with the garden this year – I’ve tried really hard with some help from Dan’s Mum. And nothing seems to have died yet. I chose a hollyhock as my dad loved to grow them – I think he’d be impressed with mine although would tell me I should’ve staked them out a bit sooner. 

5 and a half weeks in and I’ve started to settle into maternity leave and being a mum of two.  I won’t lie – initially I really felt I’d made a terrible mistake. It was hard. But now we’re all getting used to our new normal and we all seem fairly happy.  Nancy has been so good and understanding. She’s had her moments but she has been entitled to; after 3.5 years her world was changed rather dramatically!  We’ve only had one mention of putting Erin in the bin….

I’m taking a slower approach to life; enjoying time outside and exploring the area and enjoying each moment. I want to think about my friends and family more, create memories and just ‘live’.

I’m also really enjoying my crochet at the moment and have set up a Facebook page and instagram  (tealady_crochet). I am really loving this new crafty and creative side of me; it’s really excited me and invigorated me. I will blog about that in a bit too. I probably have bought too much yarn though….

So that’s me at the moment. My aim is to blog a monthly update and will blog bits inbetween. Even if no one else reads it, it’s cathartic for me!  
Emily x 

Short Thoughts 10/2/15

Today I am going to try and be less angry, and eat less chocolate.

I need to think of chocolate as poison. Evil poison.

I mustn’t let silly little things get to me so much.

My other half put the washing on yesterday but left the washing liquid out, so now I have nothing to wear, unless I want to wear smelly wet clothes

I don’t rate Sam Smith all that much.

So tired and my brain is scrambled.

Chinese is one of your five-a-day, right?

This time two years ago, I was as big as a whale, overdue. Nothing’s changed that much.

Did I mention I was tired?

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Last week…week 2

Books

I seem to be racing ahead with my books this week, I have read three now this year, so doing very well! I finished Second Life by SJ Watson, a great read and the review will be on the blog very soon. It was a real page turner and full of tension, loved it.

The other book this week is Going Out in the Midday Sun by Kate Hardy which is the book I’ve been reading for the Bahlsen Book Club. I really enjoyed this book, set in the late 90s and about a group of people who’s lives intermingle by chance. It was easy to read and well written. Again full review up very soon!

Motherhood

This week has been very tiring. We lost Nancy’s dummy (or diddy as it’s known in these parts) on Monday, and ever since then we have been going cold turkey. She has actually coped really well, and we haven’t had many tears. Getting to sleep can be tricky though, with bedtimes going on for over 2 hours. It’s starting to settle a bit now.

She’s also starting to get interested in using the potty. At times she will refuse to wear her nappy, and we have had some successes using the potty too. I’m just taking my lead from her and making it a gradual process.

Me

I’m feeling really good at the moment, very positive and happy in myself. It helps that Im fitting into clothes better, bought some nice clothes with Christmas money, and I’m taking the time to look after myself and my appearance better such as painting my nails, using my straighteners and wearing jewellery again.

I’m really pleased with how I’m doing with weight watchers, I’m focusing on veg, trying to eat fruit and/or veg with every meal. I’m happy counting my pro points again, i feel I have my mojo back and my self control. December was a total write off so I was glad I only put 4lb on over Christmas, and I managed to lose this last week. So I’m very pleased with myself 🙂

This is a short but sweet little update, a day late, but never mind! See you next week x

Last week – Week 1

What’s been happening in Tealady land this past week….

Books
This last week I have been reading lots! Over Christmas I was keen to read a few books and I managed to get quite a few read. Last week I finished Ajax Penumbra 1969 which is a fab prequel to Mr Penumbras 24 Hour Book Store. It was a good if short read, really I’d liked to have had a bit more depth to the story but it was not a bad book. I have also read Stardust by Neil Gaiman. This is the book that the film Stardust is based on. I love the film, so was intrigued by the book. Well, the book is totally different to the film, and I loved it. A lively magical fairy tale which was also a refreshing take on that sort of genre. I really loved it. I’m currently reading Second Life by SJ Watson. This is an amazing book, so tense and a real thriller. I am really enjoying it. I will be writing a review of all the books I read this month so keep an eye out for them on the blog soon. I am also looking for some recommendations for things to read this year. My goodreads target is 60 books and I am determined to reach it – last year I got to 35/40 but I could’ve done it I think if I’d just put a but more effort in, hence upping the target this year.

Me
The last few weeks have been lovely. I do feel like I have relaxed and started to get back to normal again after the stress of what happened over December. I surprised myself in a way by getting straight back on my weight watchers wagon and tracking and starting again. December was pretty much a write off, but I only have a 4lb gain to show for it, I think that shows how I have changed as a person, I am sure at one time I could have easily put on a stone in the same amount of time. Anyway, I am motivated and quite happy, I just hope I show a loss next week as I haven’t seen one for so long! I think this week will be mainly filling and healthy, I need to cut out the crap and try and eat a bit cleaner. I need to write up a menu for the week and plan my treats too. I am also starting my tap dancing lessons again on Wednesday which I am really pleased about, time to get active and have fun. Nothing should stop me now, I need to get organised and focus on what and where I want to be this year. I am making this year count.

Already I have a few events to look forward to this year and places to go. I am making it my mission to get out there, see friends, see sights, go to places I have always wanted to go, revisit some places as well. So I’ve made a good start!

Some people know (especially if you follow on twitter) that I love comping. I have been comping since I was pregnant, but not very seriously, just when I can, and I’ve been fairly successful over the last two years – nothing big but things I like. Last year I won things such as a 9 month subscription to Abel and cole, jewellery, tickets to events, books and during the advent competition madness I won X factor live tickets, candles, goody bag, cinema tickets, a £200 hamper, a notebook and rescue remedy pastilles, ombré court shoes, chocolates, cook book, vitamins and jewellery. It’s a fun little pastime, I find I win a lot of my wins on twitter so I like to try and do that every day if I can. This year I want to try and keep going with the comping and get a big organised, start entering different competitions and try to win some big prizes. It’s just nice to have something to aim high with! Would love to know if you comp and if you do we could buddy up.

Motherhood

Bubs is just so amazing. She was so poorly in December it is only now she is well I can really tell – she is an absolute live wire, always active, laughing and happy. She can get a but bossy and stroppy – “No Mummy!” Is what I’m hearing a lot of at the moment! She is eating loads although initially everything is yucky – even when she’s eating it she’s telling me it’s yucky! – and her speech has come on leaps and bounds, she will chat away with us and most of the time I can understand her. It’s so nice to chat and play with her, she has had some lovely presents and loves pretending to cook in her kitchen, play shop or push her babies around in her buggy. Imaginative play is really taking off and it’s so wonderful to see and take part in. She will be going to nursery all day on a Wednesday from now on, as I’m back to work full time. She will really love it and I think it’s the right time for her. I’m no sure how I’ll cope having to work all week but let’s see what happens!

Anyway, so that’s been my week. As I’m back to work now I am writing these updates every Sunday. See you next week.

Emily

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The end is nigh….

*dusts off the keyboard* well! is there anybody out there? Anybody? I could be talking to absolutely nobody right now. I can’t even remember the last time I blogged.

This has been an absolutely terrible month. There has been every one of us being unwell, a bout of norovirus to finish us all off and very sadly we had to say goodbye to a family member who passed away.

It’s been shit.

Christmas was a nice little bubble away from everything. Bubs had a fab time, and that’s the main thing. We smiled and all felt well for the first time in a while. It was bittersweet but it was Christmas.

It’s a shame really, as really this year has been a good one, overall, but now I can’t wait to get rid of it. The end is nigh, the midnight bells will chime and we get to start a brand new year.

One thing I can take from this horrid month, is that you have to make the most of life. Keep your goals in sight, aim high and spend time with the people you love. Why waste a day when you won’t get it back?

I am trying to be mindful. I am trying to be in the moment a bit more. To really feel, and hear and touch. I am trying to engage my brain and do some things for me. Look after myself, and those around me.

This year, I have my resolutions, and people may pooh-pooh resolutions but I enjoy making them and focusing myself. Even if it is just for a bit.

My resolutions are to keep on losing weight, to read more books, and to do more family days out. I want to get fit and get active. I want to make sure I look after myself and have a bit of time for me, and my family.

I want to be able to say I made the most of my time.

What’s your thoughts for the new year?

My Week on Wednesday

Wow, this week has gone fast! I am not sure where it’s gone really.

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Me

I’m just getting back into the swing of things after our holiday. This last week at work has been one of catching up and getting back into it all. It’s been busy but at least the days have gone by quickly.

Last week, I was really pleased that I had got my degree. I received my degree certificate on Friday so that was a great excuse to have some bubbles! I know I keep going on about my degree but it is such a big deal to me. Now I have it, I feel I need to find something else to focus on!

This last weekend was very exciting for me. I was meeting my university friends as it has been 10 years since we all met when we started our nursing and midwifery diplomas! I went up to Nottingham for the first time in years, and it was lovely from the moment I sat down on the train. I managed to read, write poetry and just chill before getting to Nottingham and meeting my friends. We had a stroll down memory lane and revisited some iconic places, such as the university and the hospital where we were based. We also went to look at our old uni house, which looked just the same as when we left it 7 years ago!

I felt all sorts of emotions as I was there. I felt a real pang of reminiscence, and a little bit of me wanted to just come back and stay there. I will always have a soft spot for the East Midlands, and Derbyshire, and going back pulled at my heart strings a bit. But in a happy way.

We also stumbled across the BBC World War One exhibition which was on in the square. We even saw Larry Lamb talking about the war with a historian, which was really interesting, adding a bit of culture to proceedings!

We went to a lovely Thai place called Tarn Thai for dinner, which was really tasty, and then on to drinks at The Pitcher and Piano, an old haunt if ours. We haven’t met up for a year so there was lots of chat and catching up to do.

On Sunday we met up for breakfast and more catching up before it was time to get the train back. I had such a lovely weekend, I always feel more myself again when I come back, like I’ve found myself again by being with my friends. Yes I have friends in Bristol but not really close friends like my university friends. I am really hoping we can meet up before Christmas or afterwards, a year is just too long!

Diet wise, things are back on track after the holiday. I lost 1.5lbs last week and even though I was away for the weekend, I have been really keeping in control of what I eat. Over the weekend I didn’t want to eat crappy train food or ‘waste’ myself on junk. I chose foods I wanted to eat, thought about what I ate, and also to some extent what I drank. I felt so much better for feeling in control and not caving in to sweet snacky foods. This week, I am eating at least one organic meal a day as I am celebrating organic month with Waitrose. This has given me such an excuse to eat more fruit and veg and given me just the boost I need – review will be on the blog within the day!

Books

I managed to finish the Poets Wife by Rebecca stonehill whilst away, and it is a lovely book. A family saga set in the time of the Spanish civil war and Franco era, it really engaged me. Review is here if you what to take a look and the book is published this friday!

I am now reading The Goldfinch and it is totally not what I expected, it’s reeled me in and I’m enjoying reading it!

Motherhood

Bubs is just growing every which way! She must be on a growth spurt as she is eating loads and drinking loads too. She is talking all the time, and new words are appearing every day! She said to me the other day, “Mummy look at this!” Which shocked me a bit – she is talking sentences! It’s so delightful to see her chatting away to her toys, singing and talking to me about things she loves. She is also doing a lot of pretend play, I got send a baby Oleg meerkat toy after buying my insurance and she loves it, rocking it to sleep and kissing it. This is a lovely time, she does have her moments and we are still figuring out how to manage her tantrums, but she isn’t ear piercing screaming as much at least!

Tea

I have just reviewed Little Miracles organic soft drinks which have organic tea in them, I thought they were pretty good. Review up this week.

My Week on Wednesday

Well, this week seems to have crept up on me a lot quicker! Still not much going on with the blog, apologies about that. I am trying to work out what I want to write about. When Inspiration hits, I will be blogging away. I think August, a time of holidays and general slowness at work, and well, everywhere, I just feel its harder to start anything new. I like September, I like the feel of autumn and that ‘starting again’ feeling you get, which probably harks back to school days. Anyway, I blather on. Here’s what happened this week:

Me

I had a lovely weekend, when my partner was off work, and we managed to sort the house out and clean everything, put everything away, and get a few jobs done. We cleared the spare bedroom for my sister’s arrival (which will be this weekend), and also ready for his Sister who was staying overnight. We had a lovely evening, with a chinese takeaway and watching a film. Oh, and some red wine. Sunday, we all went for an adventure drive and found a pub to have a Sunday Roast. It was such a nice feeling to know my house was lovely and clean, things sorted and put away, it really helped me to relax and enjoy time with my family.

My phone is almost broken, and currently only works if its plugged in, and then that’s only if you’re lucky. Not taking a phone with me wherever I am, has been liberating. I am not checking my phone all the time, writing status updates, or even taking photos. My memories all all in my head. I like not having a phone, so much I am wondering if I really want to get another one – or maybe just buy a very basic phone with no social media. We can get snowed under by it, blogs are one thing but trying to keep up to date across twitter, facebook, etc etc – it takes over your life. I am glad that I have had this opportunity to change the way I had been doing things. I enjoy it all much more now I am not constantly on there.

Books

Slow week, and it’s just seemed to go crazy fast. I have felt really tired this last week so reading has taken a little back burner. I am about half way through The Stolen Girl by Renita D’Silva and it’s still good. The tension and suspense are reeling me in. I want to know answers but yet I don’t as it would mean the book would finish!

I also managed to pick up ‘How to be a Woman’ by Caitlin Moran for a bargain 50p at work, in a charity book sale. I love it when you see a book you have been looking for, half hidden amongst the piles of other books. It’s so exciting! I am hoping I can start reading this book when I am on holiday (I have a lot of high hopes about reading loads of books this holiday – you never know!)

Motherhood

Bubs has turned 18 months old this week. It’s pretty crazy if I think about it too much. I can’t believe a year and a half has gone by with her with us. She is just so amazing, and talking so much. She says ‘All gone!” “it’s gone”, “more please” “sleep” and just so many other little words. I can’t believe that soon she will be talking like you and me, it just feels so strange. She is also very accurately telling me when she needs her nappy changing – I am not ready to start potty training just yet, and I doubt she is, but it seems to be lurking on the horizon.

Bubs’ temper has calmed a little this week, she is screaming less and more now when she is just very excited. She will sit in the trolley now with some prompting from us, and seems to enjoy having a treat (a bag of dried fruit wriggly worms) once we have finished. She is also eating much better, and using her spoon and fork more. I have found she eats better if I sort of not make a big deal of dinner or of what she has on her plate, I put it down and just let her get on with working out what it is. She also enjoys eating things she thinks is mine, so I have used this a few times when she has refused to eat. She is obsessed with chocolate, no idea why as we hardly have any in the house, and don’t tend to eat it if we do in front of her, but there has been time over the last few weeks where she has demanded chocolate!

I have also started giving Bubs warm milk before bed. She used to just have cold cow’s milk, but warming it up seems to go down much better. She likes to read a story and then will go up to bed. She is taking less time to fall asleep then she was, and that’s good as we used to have lots of screaming and shouting before she finally went to sleep. So here’s hoping that continues.

Tea

Found my Gromit mug which I was very pleased about. No new adventures in tea this week.

 

 

Weaning Weeks 2&3

Weaning Weeks 2 and 3!

A double post as I have been on my holidays! Weaning is going very well for us. Bubs has really taken to it, and is happily trying anything and everything we have given her! I have found it more of a struggle I think to fit in mealtimes as well as bottles, baby groups and other things, but I think we have settled in a little routine now, and I am much more prepared.

One thing I didn’t realise would happen so quickly is how eager Bubs is to try food, and when we are eating food she looks at us, expecting us to give her some. She is really enjoying the social side of eating, and loves watching us all eat together.

These past few weeks I have tried to make more ‘meal’ type things for her to eat rather than just sticks of vegetable!

She has tried:

Cheesey Pasta with Veg cheesypasta

Vegetable Fajita

Weetabix and Banana

Banana on Toast

Yoghurt (Well, Petit Filous)

Pasta Bake

Chopped up fruit and vegetables

She is also getting the hang of using her Babycup. I was wondering if I was expecting too much of her to use the cup, but after a few times of me helping her, and me trusting her with the water, and preparing myself for it to go everywhere, she has started to pick up and cup and take a little sip. I am so proud of her!

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I am very keen to have meal ideas for baby led weaning, as I keen to get her to try lots of different foods. I am making her what we eat, and it is actually helping my me to eat more healthily as well as make more creative and inventive meals.

So far she hasn’t really rejected any food, and hasn’t seemed to not like anything! Which I am hoping is a good sign.

With regards to yoghurt and cereals, I have given her the spoon and she can feed herself with the spoon, although it is a bit of a mess! Sometimes though she will not hold the spoon and will open her mouth and lean forward onto the spoon I am holding, it seems she wants me to give her these foods, I am trying to get her to do it though! She is loving weetabix and yoghurt, although I had a bit of a shock the first time I changed her nappy after giving them to her!

I am really enjoying this time, she is so happy and excited, and she is really enjoying trying foods and joining in a mealtimes.

The next few weeks I am hoping to try her with some more flavoured foods, such as a few spices in a mild curry, and I am planning on making a chilli tonight. I think she will like these flavours, well I hope so as I love cooking with spices! I am going to be a bit more adventurous at breakfast as well, as I am getting bored with cereal, fruit and toast!

If you have any weaning tips, hints or meal ideas, please let me know in the comments below!