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Finding Mummy

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I feel more like myself now than I ever have. Before I had Nancy,  I worried that I would lose myself, but to be honest I feel like by having Nancy, I found myself.

I feel more confident, more sure of my decisions and I am not afraid to express them. I think the first initial months with Nancy taught me that no-one has the “right” answer and that you need to go with your own gut instinct.

I like how I look like now. Yes I could lose a few pounds but I actually like what I wear and I’m confident in what I choose to wear. I wear the make-up I want to, and when I wear lipstick,  I don’t feel stupid.

I’m starting to explore hobbies, interests, things that I can learn and grow and develop. Things I never did before. What did I used to do before? I had so much time yet I never did anything remotely satisfying with it. Now I’m crocheting, reading, gardening. I’m getting interested in politics and I’m interested in learning sewing, knitting and whatever else pops into my head.

And now, things are going to change. I’m pregnant and due in August. Now the ground will shift and we have to adjust to “normal” again.

Will I have to find myself again?

Maybe it won’t be as bad this time. Things won’t change as much, but things will shift. Being a mother to 2 will be different to 1. I will have to devote myself to another for as long as needed. I will have to forgo sleep and put my life on hold.

A part of me doesn’t want to do that. A part of me wants to just be me. The me I have found these past 3 years.

But this time, I will be in control. I will know what to expect. I don’t have to let go so much. I am looking forward to this time, I really am. Focusing on my family, a baby to love and be a sibling for Nancy. Completing my family and just taking time out to live in that delicious postnatal bubble.

The unknown is worrying, unsettling. But I have to see the positive in this situation and remember that I am stronger, more confident and more sure of myself than I ever have been in my life so far. Right now.

This baby is lucky in many ways because I know who I am now. Me and Nancy had to work that out together. We had to figure out what it was that made me a mother. It was tough, but what a journey we’ve had, and are still having and I’m looking forward to sharing that with someone else too.



3 thoughts on “Finding Mummy”

  • You are a brilliant Mother as you are a wonderful daughter, sister, auntie, grandaughter & partner to Dan. You don’t get it from me as I was not the best role model of a Mum but you & Lydia are both blossoming into the Mum’s I always envied but could never emulate. Still, we got there in the end and I know this new chapter of your life will be fantastic & looking forward to seeing the new member of our eclectic family make their debut. You don’t have to find yourself – you never went away. Xxx

  • I felt the same apprehension about our second child, especially because of the 5-year age gap. I’d had time to come out of the baby bubble & find my own interests again & it was all going to change all over again. But I enjoyed my newborn months a lot more second time around. I was less anxious & appreciated it all more. And now my newborn is 4 years old & I am once more settling back into my own interests. So, yes. You will be absorbed by your baby for a time (& quite rightly too) but you will find yourself again, & perhaps quicker than before.

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