Don’t look back in Anger
All of a sudden, Bubs can get angry.
She really, really gets angry. It’s different from the crying. This is clear agitation, frustration and you can see how wound up she gets.
Is this the terrible twos at 15 months?
It’s an interesting thing to watch. How can she feel anger? Where has it come from?
She will throw things around, she will hit the table. She even tried to pull my hair the other day! Seriously. All because I wouldn’t let her stand on the table…..
She will roar at me, a low glutteral growl that actually sends a bit of a shiver down my spine.
She points. What’s she pointing at? A knife. She’s wants a knife. Ok, so I know she can’t have a knife.
But then she makes that growl. I say no. I wait.
She turns into a werewolf.
I find it so weird how she can be angry and how she tries to take it out on me. I don’t know why, but it seems so grown up.
Things she’s been angry about today:
Not being able to stand on the table
Not being able to have an orange
Cbeebies had finished for the evening
She wanted a fork
She wanted the car seat
I mentioned the word ‘sleep’
She wanted to wear her shoes indoors
How do we start to manage this? A lot of it is around communication, and understanding. She wants something but doesn’t understand it could kill her. Or someone else. I try and distract her and take her mind off things. Usually this works.
Sometimes, she just needs a rest. Or a bribery will work.
I stay calm, and try not to show much reaction. She is looking for a reaction sometimes, I think. Some of this is about boundaries. I will tell her that she can’t have the knife, or climb up on the table.
The biggest thing, is not to take it personal. Which you can do when she smears weetabix over your work clothes just before you leave for work. She’s learning. She’s growing. We all get angry, we can all throw our toys out of the cot.
I try and do what Noël Gallagher says – Don’t Look Back in Anger.